In today’s post, I talk about how to uncover alternative possibilities in situations that feel unchangeable. I also talk about what Bulgarian sunflowers reminded me about approaching situations where we feel powerless, or where we can’t influence or change how things are. (Click to watch the video, or scroll down if you’d prefer to read.)

(Click here to watch if you can’t see the video above. Please note: This video’s introduction has my previous coaching focus – this has now changed to helping women create a life which feels fulfilling and aligned to what they want.)

I love sunflowers, and it’s always been a dream of mine to go to a sunflower field. A few years ago, I found out about and went to a field just outside London for the first time. It turned out that I’d missed high season though, so I decided to go the following year and try to catch them in full bloom then. 

The next summer something had gone wrong though, and some crows had eaten all the seeds. So I decided there was nothing I could do, and I felt resigned to waiting another year. 

I encourage you to ask yourself the following questions to help you think about potential alternative options and possibilities: 

• What am I accepting as a given or unchangeable that may be more flexible than I’m assuming?
  
• What might be another way to approach this that I haven’t thought of yet?
• What’s my ideal, and how might I move towards that sooner if it feels important to me?
  

I think we all have moments when we automatically accept things as a given or unchangeable. With things you’d love to happen sooner, and especially with things that feel important to you, I really encourage you to probe a bit deeper and question if there are other possibilities that you may not have considered – and more flexibility than you originally assumed.

If what I talked about today resonated, I’d love to hear your comments and what your takeaway is!